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How to tell if someone is lieing to you
By Greg Turner
I am creating this article about detecting a lie because I absolutely hate being lied to. I know that we have all told lies at one time or another, but I am not talking about those little white lies you tell your kids to protect them from knowing something you don't want them to know. I am talking about those lies that you get when someone has done something wrong and they don't want to get in to trouble or something like that. So I decided to go and do some research about how to detect a lie and I am sharing what I learned in the process.
Detecting when someone is lying to you
Don't you wish you could always tell when you are being lied to by someone? Some experts say that there isn't a person on the planet that hasn't lied at one time or another and that we lie to others once or twice a day and in about 30 to 38 percent of our interactions. You might say "I never lie, I always tell the truth but when we consider whether we lie or not we have to think about the white lies as well. Some times we don't tell the whole truth or omit some information to keep from hurting someone's feelings. Or we may have to give our kids an explanation that is not entirely true because the truth would be too harsh or graphic for them to know.
In order to understand why we lie we first have to understand that why we lie varies. Around the age of 4 or 5, when we start telling lies, it's not done maliciously but rather to find out, or test, what can be manipulated in a in their environment. Eventually children begin to use lying to get out of trouble or to get something they want. White lies, those we make up to protect someone's feelings, may not seem to be a big deal but the person, however, who seems to feel compelled to lie about both the small and large stuff has a problem. We often call these pathological liars (which is a description, not a diagnosis). They lie to protect themselves, look good, gain financially or socially and avoid punishment. A much more troubling group is those who lie a lot - and knowingly - for personal gain. These people may have a diagnosis called antisocial personality disorder, also known as being a sociopath. So, if you want to be able to tell if someone is lying to you here is a list of common signs of lying. 1) NO EYE CONTACT. Usually, if someone is lying they will not look you in the eye at least during certain parts of the conversation. Normally, people make eye contact for at least half of the conversation, so anything less than this could be considered as suspicious.
2) CHANGE IN VOICE. A change in the pitch of a person's tone, or a lot of stammering, or throat clearing could indicate a lie.
3) UNUSUAL BODY LANGUAGE. If a person taps their foot a lot, fidgets with their hands, raises their shoulders, turns away from you or brings their hand to their face (to touch their chin or nose, etc.) -- in other words, if they act nervous or uncomfortable -- it could mean they're telling a lie.
4) BEING OVERLY DEFENSIVE. Sometimes when a person is lying they will become extremely defensive, refusing to answer any questions and even accusing you of lying. This may mean they have something to hide
5) CONTRADICTING ONE SELF. Making statements that just don't hold together should make you suspicious. Of course, no one behavior can tell for sure whether or not someone is telling the truth or lying. While you should trust your instinct, catching a liar in the act is best done by watching their normal behaviors. When those behaviors suddenly change, that's when a lie has likely been done
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